What Stories Are You Following Today?

I read this online today from a prominent news organization, and I was immediately drawn to the question.  I couldn't stop thinking about it all day because the question wasn't what events are you following today, or even what's happening that interests you today... the question was "What stories are you following today?"

This question is powerful because it speaks strongly to what captivates us, and that is good storytelling.  A well crafted story can inspire us, call us to action, make us feel things that we didn't know were there in our hearts.

Good stories follow single protagonists from an inciting incident, past barriers that he or she overcomes (or doesn't) to the climactic moment of triumph or defeat.  And when we find stories that move us, we never forget them.  The power of storytelling has been discovered by fundraisers, salespeople, politicians... a real estate agent once said to me, "every home has its own story."

I learned from a well known speaker many years ago that we would do well to recall that in the book Peter Pan, the lost boys explain to Wendy that they never grew up because they didn't know any stories.  So for today, I'm going to to think about this one thing, "What stories am I following today?"  How about you?

Where Do You Find Inspiration?

As I committed to a daily blog for one year, I have been looking for inspiration in random places.  When I watch movies, I'm listening carefully to questions that the characters ask each other.  Today, I asked my trainer if he's heard any great questions lately.  On my way home I realized that I had asked him the wrong question, an ideal lesson for this year's quest.  If I'm truly to find new questions, I have to look for new venues of inspiration.

So today's blog is short and sweet and I ask, "Where do you find inspiration?"  If you show me yours, I'll show you mine!

What Do You Do Better Than Everyone Else?

When teaching a class on leadership to a group of graduate students, I posed this question, what do you do better than everyone else?  They hated it, so I followed up by asking it on their final exam.  Despite the fact that a significant portion of their grade would be based on the final, some of the students simply used the opportunity to complain about the question, or in two cases, to flat out refuse to answer it.

It's not that their protestations were without merit.  Their central argument was that it was impossible to answer the question, simply because they were not acquainted with everyone else on the globe, and therefore, couldn't make such a bold supposition that their unique talent was, in fact, unique.

But I feel differently - we all have things we bring to the table and though we may share traits and talents, we manifest them in different ways.  And if we want to leverage our key strength - the thing that we do better than everyone else - we have to be boldly willing to name it.  I like the phrasing of the question precisely because it requires chutzpah - a lot of it - to declare with certainty that one of our talents is truly exceptional, that is to say, that we possess skill that is the exception and not the rule.

I have asked this question of people I have coached and organizations with which I have consulted.  I have asked it to candidates for jobs, and have even inserted into interviews where I was the candidate.  And each time I have found that the process of identifying that one item has not only been of value, but has helped my clients be clearer about what makes them special with themselves and those with whom they interact.

Can we say without reservation that the item we pick is truly done better by us than everyone else.  Maybe not.  But the act of saying it is a powerful act in itself.  Do you know your answer?  I know mine.

Why Be Good When Great is an Option?

Now that I'm on a quest for questions, I'm shocked that I'm starting to see good ones everywhere.  Almost like when you're buying a red Toyota Prius and all of a sudden, all you see on the road are red Toyota Prius'.

On my way to the gym yesterday, I drove past a building that had a huge banner that read, "Why be good when great is an option?"

I was so taken by the question that I now realize that I have no idea what business the banner was promoting.  It's an inspiring question, but it misses something important - the difference between good and great isn't as simple as looking at a list and thinking, well, I was going to choose good, but since great is an option, I'll go with that!

The difference between good and great is work.  It doesn't happen by magic.
I like great.  In fact, I love great.  And when great is important, great is worth the work.  Great is inspiring.  Great is motivating.  Great is, well, great.

But I'm also willing to stand up and speak on behalf of good.  Good is, well, good.  And those who will tell you that they strive for great every minute, every time, in every situation may have forgotten how good that good can be.  And for those of us who are managing multiple responsibilities and attentions (and isn't that really ALL of us?), need to use judgement as to when great is worth it and when good is good enough.

So I propose a modification to the question... When good and great are options, which one is the best use of my time and talents for this particular goal?  I'm confident that if I give it some thought in each unique situation, that indeed would be great.

What's the Issue?

When I was in college, I had a friend who had a tendency toward the histrionic.  It took very little to set her off and the drama was my earliest experience with reality TV in real life.  Something would get her going and off she went into a rant like nothing I had seen before, save for the childhood playground.  Once during an episode, while some us were trying to respond to the barrage of rapid fire complaints in the tantrum, a mutual friend of ours looked at her calmly and simply said, "What's the issue?"

It stopped her in her tracks as she paused to consider this deeply insightful question.  And I never forgot it because my friend managed to boil the entire rant down to a central question.

I've thought about that question so many times over the years whenever I've been in a position of having to respond to someone who is upset.  It's not the seat at the back table that the attendee is upset about, it's the perception that he or she isn't as important or valued as those in the front.  It's not the rejection from the leadership program that the applicant is suffering, it's the perceived commentary on his or leadership potential and ability.  It's not the getting picked last for the team that stings, it's the perception of one's popularity or ability to contribute to the goal that hurts.

What's the issue? does more for creating solutions and building ideas than "I'm sorry you're upset" ever could.  I can't wait to use it.

Why Didn't I Start Yesterday?

For many years around December 29th, I have thought, "wouldn't it be cool to do one thing every day in the coming year?"  Whether it was taking pictures, writing a blog, scrapbooking photos... nothing fit precisely and I usually ran out of time to come up with a brilliant idea that I could look at on December 31st as the "something cool I did for a year."  There I was on January 1st and as the hours wound down to the second day of the year and I came up with nothing innovative, I thought, ok, maybe next year.

And then today it hit me, in my quest for answers, I never came up with the right questions.  So this year, I'm going to give questions a try.  Asking good questions is so much more art than science, and it is undervalued.  We gravitate to the people and the articles and the blogs that give us the answers we want but we forget the element that brought the authors all that wisdom, and that was the asking of the powerful and insightful first questions.

We think good conversation, good presentation, good inspiration, good talking is about what we have to say, but as a friend and mentor once told me: just ask the right question, the rest will come.

So today's question is the most obvious for a quest that begins on January 2nd.

Why didn't I start yesterday?  

Why did I eat that last piece of cake?  Why haven't I been going to the gym?  Why didn't I start the presentation/project/article/paper/homework before now?  Why didn't I clean the house?  Why didn't I see that film while it was still out?

And so my first question is really, is the answer to that question really so important, or is it a path to self doubt, self judgement and self sabotage.  I don't know why I didn't start yesterday, so I'm going to relax.  I'm really excited to be starting today.